{"id":78410,"date":"2023-08-04T12:45:09","date_gmt":"2023-08-04T09:45:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/invidyo.com\/blog?p=78410"},"modified":"2023-08-04T12:45:09","modified_gmt":"2023-08-04T09:45:09","slug":"terrible-twos-what-is-it-and-how-you-can-deal-with-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/invidyo.com\/blog\/en\/terrible-twos-what-is-it-and-how-you-can-deal-with-it","title":{"rendered":"Terrible Twos: What Is It And How You Can Deal With It?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Saying \u201cno\u201d to everything. Refusing to wear that jacket when it is freezing outside. Putting on that coat when the weather is blazing hot. Throwing themselves face down on the ground…<\/span><\/p>\n

Do any of these sound familiar to you?<\/span><\/p>\n

Regardless of your child\u2019s age, these signs could be a clue that the so-called terrible twos have hit and your child is stepping into a new learning phase. <\/span><\/p>\n

In our days, parents and pediatricians frequently mentioned the “terrible twos.” It’s often highlighted as a challenging period.<\/p>\n

Indeed, it can be…<\/p>\n

However, there’s a positive aspect to it: during this time, your child is exploring boundaries, which experts suggest is crucial for distinguishing right from wrong.<\/p>\n

Terrible twos is a normal part of development which is often characterized by tantrums, defiant behavior, rapid mood changes, and lots of frustration. It may sometimes seem like a terrible period but it\u2019s a crucial part of growing up. And similar to any phase of adolescence, your child will be looking to you for guidance and support. <\/span><\/p>\n

Believe us learning what actually sparks this phase will help you and your child. Do keep reading to learn more about the terrible twos.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

When do the terrible twos start?<\/span><\/h2>\n

The terrible twos generally begins anywhere from 18 to 30 months of age.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n

Experts say that most children begin to exhibit increased emotional instability, outbursts, and defiant behavior between the ages of 2 and 3 years.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

But there are also some children who may begin to demonstrate terrible two behavior prior to 2 years (like 18 months). <\/span><\/p>\n

Why do the terrible twos happen?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Although exhausting, the terrible twos is a normal stage in development and a sign that your toddler has hit some major developmental milestones.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Your child is learning new gross motor skills<\/strong> like jumping and climbing, getting better at walking, and developing fine motor skills like stacking blocks and scribbling with a crayon or marker. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, their verbal skills<\/strong> may be lagging behind their other abilities. <\/span><\/p>\n

Not being able to express their wants and needs can be frustrating for your child, often leading to outbursts that characterize the terrible twos.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Without an emotional vocabulary to rely on, your child can quickly become frustrated and feel they have no means to express their feelings in any way other than anger or aggression.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is one reason why the terrible twos happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, o<\/span>ne of the biggest reasons why toddlers have tantrums is because the part of their brain that allows them to think logically isn\u2019t fully developed yet.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n

The part of the brain that regulates emotion and controls social behavior is the frontal lobe<\/strong> and it is the last part to fully develop. It only begins to mature at the age of 4.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

A toddler’s behavior is greatly influenced by their limbic system.<\/strong> This is the part of the brain that controls emotions and impulses<\/strong>. When something upsets a toddler, the limbic system is activated. <\/span><\/p>\n

If they start having a tantrum, this system is fully activated – meaning that emotions take over your child completely.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As the frontal lobe is not developed enough to help them think clearly about what is upsetting them, there\u2019s no voice in their head to make them stop in their tracks and ask themselves “Is this really a good idea?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

A semi-functional frontal lobe also means that toddlers hardly have any sense of time or any patience. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

When they have a strong desire for something or to do something, they feel the need to act upon it immediately.<\/p>\n

Why are the twos so terrible?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Terrible twos are full of intellectual and physical growth and development.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your child is starting to<\/span><\/p>\n