{"id":4606,"date":"2021-06-07T09:40:44","date_gmt":"2021-06-07T06:40:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/invidyo.com\/blog?p=4606"},"modified":"2021-06-07T10:00:31","modified_gmt":"2021-06-07T07:00:31","slug":"mom-guilt-how-to-manage-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/invidyo.com\/blog\/en\/mom-guilt-how-to-manage-it","title":{"rendered":"Mom Guilt: Everything you Need to Know and How to Manage"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mom guilt is absolutely real. Being mamas, we have experienced mom guilt in one way or the other.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Despite how common this feeling of mom guilt is, it is not nearly talked about enough!\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

In this article, we will give it to you straight – you will experience\u00a0mom guilt through different instances in your life. But it doesn\u2019t have to take a toll on you! These strategies will help you manage it so you can continue being the amazing mom you are.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

What is Mom Guilt?\u00a0<\/span><\/h1>\n

Are you talking about the lingering, soul crushing feeling that makes you doubt about your competency as a mom?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ah yes, <\/span>mom guilt.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Mom guilt is the voice in your head that tells you you are not good enough to be a mom, and that you could do more. It can take a huge toll on your self-esteem, and make you doubt your role as a parent.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We also like to call it the by-product of motherhood.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Society has drilled an enormous amount of expectations in mothers, that it becomes very difficult to live up to all of those expectations. Whether it is family, friends or the media – everyone has a say on what a mother should do or not do.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When mamas are unable to fulfil these unrealistic expectations, it can trigger the feeling of mom guilt which causes them to worry, feel shameful or regretful about certain things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What is the Psychology Behind Mom Guilt?<\/span><\/h1>\n

According to <\/span>Doctor Katy Harrison<\/span><\/a>, mamas go through mom guilt because we have been conditioned to believe that we should be naturals at being mothers.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This leaves very little room for error, doesn\u2019t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

But the reality is that raising children is difficult, and there is no manual on how to do it perfectly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

To go deeper into the psychology of mom guilt, <\/span>psychologist Molly Millwood<\/span><\/a> helps mamas overcome mom guilt by highlight two types of guilt:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. There is <\/span>valid guilt<\/b>, which is more of a constructive and healthy type of guilt that helps you understand that your actions or intentions are not in line with your values and what you believe in as a mother.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Then, there is unfounded guilt. <\/b>This arises from failure to meet perceived <\/i>expectations or standards that are pushed on mothers by society which they have, ultimately, internalized.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Mom guilt generally stems from the latter.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Examples of unfounded mom guilt include:<\/span><\/p>\n